I love my body. We have been through hell and back together. Through weight loss and gain. Love and abuse. Sickness and health.
It took me a while but I'm finally at the place where I am fully comfortable in my own skin. Even when I gain a few pounds. Even when I'm having an off day.
While working in Paris recently I was really upset by all of the negative body talk I heard. All of these beautiful young women were scrutinizing themselves under a microscope. Having struggled intimately with my own body image issues I made an effort to take deep breaths and not to do the same to myself.
Life is too short not to be best friends with your body. Have fun with it. Admire it. Have great sex with it. And above all, love it.
I make a point to never, ever point out my physical flaws... this is advice I give to women as often as I can. People don't notice the things we see in ourselves that we hate, so why direct them to it? - Dita Von Teese
Here are 7 tips to help you love your body right now...
1. Don't talk shit about it
Don't talk shit about your body out loud or in your head. The more you repeat something the more you start to believe it. Be kind to yourself and be a good role model to other young women by complimenting yourself and accepting compliments. Yes you are a sexy beast. It's okay to admit it.
2. Eat delicious food
When you're feeling like crap about your body don't turn to crappy diet food or junk food for comfort. Now is the time to nourish yourself. Eat beautiful, vibrant, delicious food that you enjoy eating and will make your body feel great as well. Treat yourself.
3. Flaunt the parts you're proud of
Alright so you're bloated and feeling anything but sexy. What part of your body do you love no matter what? Your strong arms? Your booty? Your beautiful smile? Flaunt it. On my worst days I'll always show a little leg. They are the one part of my body I have loved through every stage of my life. Throwing on a great dress and a pair of wedges works as an immediate pick me up.
4. Have fun with style
Sometimes you have to fake it til' you make it. Do not wait for the day you feel confident enough to pull of the looks you dream of wearing. I used to hold back from so many styles because I felt I couldn't wear them unless I was a certain size. I've thrown that rule out the window. Wear what you love. Own it. You look great.
5. Repeat "I love myself"
Again, the I love myself mantra. On repeat. Through the rough days. It works.
6. Stop comparing yourself to others
We are all beautiful in our own way. Don't wish for anyone else's body or life. Embrace your own. Our imperfections can be our most attractive qualities. I have a small bust but I don't have to wear a bra and I can run comfortably whenever I want. You win some you lose some.
7. Realize you are so much more than a body
When I'm really struggling with my body image I remember that it is not who I am. I am my mind. My spirit. My soul. That is the real me. And I like her.